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Author Graham, Dee, author.

Title Loving to survive : sexual terror, men's violence, and women's lives / Dee L.R. Graham with Edna I. Rawlings and Roberta K. Rigsby
Published New York : New York University Press, [1994]

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Description 1 online resource
Series Feminist crosscurrents
Feminist crosscurrents.
Contents 1. Love Thine Enemy: Hostages and Classic Stockholm Syndrome -- 2. Graham's Stockholm Syndrome Theory: A Universal Theory of Chronic Interpersonal Abuse? -- 3. "Here's My Weapon, Here's My Gun; One's for Pleasure, One's for Fun": Conditions Conducive to Women's Development of Societal Stockholm Syndrome -- 4. En-Gendered Terror: The Psychodynamics of Stockholm Syndrome Applied to Women as a Group in Our Relations with Men as a Group -- 5. The Beauties and the Beasts: Women's Femininity, Love of Men, and Heterosexuality -- 6. Moving from Surviving to Thriving: Breaking Out of Societal Stockholm Syndrome -- Appendix. Potential Aspects of Stockholm Syndrome
Summary In 1973, three women and one man were held hostage in one of the largest banks in Stockholm by two ex-convicts. These two men threatened their lives, but also showed them kindness. Over the course of the long ordeal, the hostages came to identify with their captors, developing an emotional bond with them. They began to perceive the police, their prospective liberators, as their enemies, and their captors as their friends and a source of security. This seemingly bizarre reaction to captivity, in which the hostages and captors mutually bond to one another, has been documented in other cases as well, and has become widely known as Stockholm Syndrome. Dee Graham and her coauthors take this syndrome as their starting point to develop a new way of looking at male-female relationships. Loving to Survive considers men's violence against women as crucial to understanding women's current psychology. Men's violence creates ever present, and therefore often unrecognized, terror in women. This terror is often experienced as a fear - for any woman - of rape by any man or as a fear of making a man - any man - angry. They propose that women's current psychology is actually a psychology of women under conditions of captivity - that is, under conditions of terror caused by male violence against women. Therefore, women's responses to men, and to male violence, resemble hostages' responses to captors. Loving to Survive proposes that, like hostages who work to placate their captors lest they kill them, women work to please men, and from this springs women's femininity. Femininity describes a set of behaviors that please men because they communicate a woman's acceptance of her subordinate status. Thus, feminine behaviors are, in essence, survival strategies. Like hostages who bond to their captors, women bond to men in an effort to survive. This is a book that will forever change the way we look at male-female relationships and women's lives
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Bibliography Includes bibliographical references (pages 283-306) and index
Notes Print version record
Subject Women -- Crimes against -- United States
Abusive men -- United States
Women -- United States -- Psychology
POLITICAL SCIENCE / Public Policy / Social Security
POLITICAL SCIENCE / Public Policy / Social Services & Welfare
Abusive men
Women -- Crimes against
Women -- Psychology
Frau
Gewalt
Psychologie
Geschlechterverhältnis
Mann
Psychodynamik
Verbrechensopfer
Verarbeitung
Feministische Psychotherapie
Geschlechterrolle
Vergewaltigung
Sexuelle Gewalt -- USA.
Mann -- Gewalt -- USA.
Gewalt -- Mann -- USA.
Misshandlung -- Frau -- USA.
Frau -- Misshandlung -- USA.
Psychologie.
Misshandelte Frau.
Gewalt.
Geschlechterbeziehung.
Frau.
United States
USA.
Form Electronic book
Author Rawlings, Edna I.
Rigsby, Roberta K.
LC no. 94003057
ISBN 9780814732601
0814732607