| Description |
xxi, 342 pages ; 23 cm |
| Contents |
Ch. 1. The Language of Loss. Absolute Catastrophe. Total Discontinuity. Terrifying Insecurity. Profound Emptiness. Loss versus Absence -- Ch. 2. The Event That Shatters Childhood. Sudden Death/The World Is a Safe and Secure Place. Slow Death/My Parents Are Strong and Powerful. Suicide/Of Course My Parents Love Me. Denial/I Can Believe What I See, Can't I? A Triad of Unacceptable Feelings -- Ch. 3. The Surviving Parent. The Incapacitated Parent. The Negligent Parent. The Abusive Parent. The Parent Who Looks to a Child for Friendship and Love. The Competent Parent -- Ch. 4. Personal Mythologies. The Lost Parent. Myths about the Self. Fantasies about the Relationships That Might Have Been. Idiosyncratic Myths -- Ch. 5. Creating the Self. Exhilarated. Determined. Resigned. Overwhelmed and Panicked. Out of Control -- Ch. 6. Building Relationships: The Dance of Love and Loss. Living with the Tension Between Love and Loss. Seeing Only Love. Seeing Only Loss -- Ch. 7. Parenting |
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Childless by Choice. Parenting without a Model. A Confused Parent/Child Drama. Applying Lessons Learned in the Past. Parenting and Personal Repair -- Ch. 8. Death, Mortality, and Vitality. The Fear of Death. Mortality: An Early Death. Attacks on Vitality. Death Is Nothing to Fear -- Ch. 9. Acts of Repair. Modest Repair/Delayed Mourning. Mastery via Creativity and Work. Re-creating the Self -- Ch. 10. Unwanted Legacies. Varieties of Numbing. Depression and Anxiety. Destructive Metaphors -- Ch. 11. Staying in Touch. Pictures. Objects. Places. Culturally Sanctioned Rituals. Guardian Angels -- Ch. 12. Owning One's Destiny. Reclaiming One's Destiny. The Tension between Personal Control and Fate. Survivor Pride. Liking One's Life. Personal Will |
| Notes |
"A Dutton book." |
| Bibliography |
Includes bibliographical references (pages [322]-333) and index |
| Subject |
Bereavement in children.
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Death -- Psychological aspects.
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Maternal deprivation -- Case studies.
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Maternal deprivation.
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Parent and child.
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Paternal deprivation -- Case studies.
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Paternal deprivation.
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| LC no. |
95010336 |
| ISBN |
0525938699 (acid-free paper) |
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