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Author Lengelle, Reinekke, 1970- author.

Title Writing the self in bereavement : a story of love, spousal loss, and resilience / Reinekke Lengelle
Published New York, NY : Routledge, 2021
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Description 1 online resource (xxix, 205 pages)
Series Writing lives : ethnographic narratives
Writing lives--ethnographic narratives.
Contents Intro -- Endorsements -- Half Title -- Series Page -- Title Page -- Copyright Page -- Dedication -- Contents -- Book Summary -- Author Bio -- Series Foreword -- References -- Foreword To Writing The Self In Bereavement -- Acknowledgments -- Note -- Introduction -- Note -- 1. Early Grief -- Imperfect Us -- The Diagnosis -- Witness of My Life -- Early Days of Illness -- Community -- Rhythms -- Talking to Frans -- So Fast -- The Illness -- Visitors -- A Letter from Paris -- Notes -- 2. Unfinished Business -- What Is Different Now? -- Moods of the Day -- Work -- To Cry and Not to Cry
My Love, I'm Angry -- Deep Dialogues of Healing -- Reflections on the Healing Dialogue -- Notes -- 3. Our History and Physical Longing in Grief -- Grief Observed and Physical Longing -- Sex -- Going to See Friends -- Reflections and Friends -- The Ego -- Moments of Normal -- Ingredients for Living and More Ordinary Days -- 4. Grief's Ebb and Flow -- Journal Entries -- Nevertheless She Persists -- 5. Writing Again and in Touch with Feelings -- The World We Create Through the Language of ""Us -- Into the New Year -- Generation Gap Reflections -- Pondering Day-to-Day -- Living in the Now -- Note
6. Beginnings and Adaptive Emotions -- Writing about the Day Frans Died -- Recipe for a Broken Heart -- Emotions Help Me Through Grief -- 7. Death -- The Day -- Washing Him, Dressing Him -- Six Months On -- The Funeral -- 8. Sexual Desire and Asking to be Held -- Onward -- Note -- 9. Secondary Losses and Collateral Beauty -- The Things I Would Have Told You if You Were Still Alive -- Collateral Beauty -- Visits and Good Memories -- Good, and Sad -- Frans's Garden -- Intense Presence and Contentment -- Almost Normal -- One Year Since Frans's Death (November 16, 2019) -- Notes
10. Sharing the Work -- Kindred Scholars -- New Beginnings -- How Grief Keeps Showing Up -- 11. Writing the Self in Bereavement -- The Benefits of Writing -- 1. Continuing Bonds and the Dialogical Self -- 2. Writing as a Companion: the Observer, the Internal Dialogue, and the Art of Microscopic Listening -- 3. Writing as a Way of Dealing with Unfinished Business -- 4. To Make Meaning and Beyond a Need for Meaning -- 5. Dealing with Taboos and Identity Maintenance -- Three Taboos -- 1. Sexual Desire -- 2. Repartnering -- 3. Ambivalence in Grief -- Epilogue
Appendix: Identity in Grief, Dialogical Self Theory, and Composing a Life -- References -- Index
Summary "In Writing the Self in Bereavement: A Story of Love, Spousal Loss and Resilience, Reinekke Lengelle uses her abilities as a researcher, poet, and professor of therapeutic writing to tell a heartfelt and fearless story about her grief after the death of her spouse and the year and a half following his diagnosis, illness, and passing. This book powerfully demonstrates that writing can be a companion in bereavement. It uses and explains the latest research on coming to terms with spousal loss without being prescriptive. Integrated with this contemporary research are stories, poetry, and reflections on writing as a therapeutic process. The author unflinchingly explores a number of themes that are underrepresented in existing resources: how one deals with anger associated with loss, what a healthy response might be to unfinished business with the deceased, continuing conversations with the beloved (even for agnostics and atheists), ongoing sexual desire, and secondary losses. As a rare book where an author successfully combines a personal story, heart-rending poetry, up-to-date research on grief, and an evocative exploration of taboo topics in the context of widowhood, Writing the Self in Bereavement is uniquely valuable for those grieving a spouse or other loved one, those supporting others in bereavement, and those interested in the healing power of poetry and life writing. Researchers on death and dying, grief counsellors, and autoethnographers will also benefit from reading this resonant resource on love and loss"-- Provided by publisher
Bibliography Includes bibliographical references and index
Notes Reinekke Lengelle, PhD, is assistant professor of interdisciplinary studies at Athabasca University, Canada and a senior researcher at The Hague University, The Netherlands. She is a poet, a playwright, the co-creator of Career Writing, and a symposium co-editor with the British Journal of Guidance and Counselling. www.writingtheself.ca
Description based on online resource; title from digital title page (viewed on January 20, 2021)
Subject Grief.
Bereavement -- Psychological aspects.
Loss (Psychology)
Widowhood -- Psychological aspects
grief.
PSYCHOLOGY / Research & Methodology
SOCIAL SCIENCE / Research
Bereavement -- Psychological aspects
Grief
Loss (Psychology)
Widowhood -- Psychological aspects
Form Electronic book
LC no. 2020038533
ISBN 9781003124009
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