Description |
1 online resource (322 p.) |
Contents |
Cover -- Title Page -- Copyright Page -- Contents -- Preface -- Introduction -- Part I Know yourself -- Chapter 1 Why is it so hard to live true to ourselves? -- How our histories shape us -- It starts at the beginning -- Then everything changed again -- The challenges of instability -- Learning to 'earn' my worth -- How trauma shapes us -- But my childhood was normal -- We are not meant to do it alone -- Chapter 2 Learning to get our needs met -- Why are we working so hard? -- Three unconscious strategies for getting our needs met -- Leadership Circle framework |
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Complying tendency: Moving toward -- Controlling tendency: Moving against -- When we are over-activated in our controlling tendency -- Protecting tendency: Moving away -- The root of all three tendencies -- Awareness. Acceptance. Action. Afterburn. -- Awareness -- Acceptance -- Action -- Watch out for the afterburn! -- Chapter 3 Learning to dance in relationships -- Learning to dance -- 'Good enough' parenting -- Dancing blindly -- How do you dance? -- 1. Secure attachment: The rock of reliability -- 2. Insecure ambivalent/anxious preoccupied: The yearning for connection |
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3. Insecure avoidant/dismissive avoidant: The island of independence -- 4. Disorganised/fearful avoidant: The pendulum of confusion -- Resolve your trauma to heal your attachment style -- Attachment in the workplace -- 1. Anxiously attached in the workplace -- 2. Avoidantly attached in the workplace -- 3. Securely attached in the workplace -- Hold your heart gently -- Chapter 4 The many forces that hinder our authenticity -- Our brain is wired for survival -- Our internal threat, drive and soothing systems -- Our threat system -- Our drive system -- Our soothing system |
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Dependency and interdependency -- Adult stages of development -- Stage 3: Socialised mind -- Stage 4: Self-authoring mind -- Stage 5: Self-transforming mind -- Our core beliefs colour how we see the world -- Getting stuck in identity and our narrative -- Who am I without my identity? -- The gift and challenge of being a mum -- Perimenopause and menopause -- The reality of a patriarchal, white-privileged and outwardly focused society -- #metoo -- Workplace gender bias -- Moving forward -- Good enough -- Changing our template -- Part II Care for yourself |
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Chapter 5 The challenge and gift of being our own best friend -- Becoming our own best friend with self-compassion -- Learning to love myself -- But isn't it just self-indulgence? -- How shame cripples us -- Why do we resist self-compassion? -- Replace the inner critic with the inner coach -- Chapter 6 Finding our boundaries -- The need for compassionate boundaries -- Get clear on your priorities -- Chapter 7 Tuning into our needs -- Tuning into your unmet needs -- Metta meditation -- Tend and befriend -- Self-care is about valuing and respecting ourselves |
Notes |
Description based upon print version of record |
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1. Not every self-care activity feels good |
Genre/Form |
Electronic books
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Form |
Electronic book
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ISBN |
9781394248735 |
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1394248733 |
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